Feeling Stuck After Divorce? Here’s How to Pivot and Rise

Feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re at a dead end — it’s simply a place to pivot and rise. For many women, particularly those moving through the aftermath of divorce or separation, “stuck” can feel like an unbreakable state. But being stuck is often a temporary pause, a signal to reflect, recalibrate, and ultimately, to rise.

A few years back, I had a client who felt this way, deeply rooted in her own story of pain and self-doubt. She was on a merry-go-round of emotions, replaying old beliefs and toxic words that had left her feeling undeserving. She didn’t realise it, but she had let these words shape her self-worth, pulling her into a cycle of feeling unworthy of joy, success, or love. She became accustomed to sinking into the comfort of her couch, lost in Netflix dramas, while feeling uncomfortable with any idea of moving forward. She felt disconnected from herself and unsure of what came next.

This story might sound familiar to you or someone you know. Life after divorce can bring about a heavy, lingering weight, often tied to the words and beliefs imposed by others or even by our own past experiences. For many women, this weight creates an invisible barrier, holding them back from reconnecting with their dreams, self-worth, and vision for the future. But here’s the empowering truth: resilience and confidence aren’t “out there” to be found — they’re already within, waiting to be uncovered.

1. Recognise the Power of Small, Consistent Steps

When you’re feeling stuck, the idea of making a big change can feel overwhelming. This is why small, consistent steps are crucial. My client’s journey forward wasn’t about huge leaps; it was about shifting her perspective and setting small, achievable goals. She started by finding one thing each day to look forward to — a walk in the park, a new book, or a simple act of self-care. By committing to these small actions, she began to find glimmers of hope and self-worth returning.

Actionable Tip: Begin by identifying one positive action you can take each day, no matter how small. Over time, these small steps become the foundation for a resilient mindset.

2. Build a Support System That Lifts You Up

Women going through divorce often feel isolated, which only reinforces that stuck feeling. Surrounding yourself with people who encourage, uplift, and respect you can make all the difference. My client found it transformative to connect with others on a similar journey, to hear their stories, and to share her own struggles in a safe space.

Actionable Tip: Consider joining a support group, or seek out workshops designed specifically for women who are rebuilding their lives. Having a community that understands and supports you can be a game-changer.

3. Reconnect With Your Body and Mind

Feeling stagnant or stuck after divorce often disconnects you from your body and mind. Reclaiming resilience involves both physical and mental reconnection. For my client, this meant finding simple, joyful ways to move her body and calm her mind. Whether it was yoga, a morning beach walk, or even gentle stretches, these small practices helped her feel grounded and more in tune with herself.

Actionable Tip: Start with five minutes of mindful movement daily, like a walk or light stretching. Movement releases endorphins, and over time, it rebuilds a connection with your body, helping you feel empowered.

4. Embrace the Idea of a “New Chapter”

The end of one chapter doesn’t mean the end of your story. It’s an opportunity to pivot, rediscover, and redefine what happiness, success, and resilience mean to you. My client gradually learned to stop looking back with regret and to focus on the present, asking herself, “What do I want my future to look like?” As she built new routines and invested in self-discovery, she began to see this new chapter as a time of growth.

Actionable Tip: Start journaling about the future you want to create. Allow yourself to dream, write down your goals, and envision the joy and fulfilment you want to experience.

Pivoting Toward Resilience

Remember, resilience isn’t about ignoring pain or glossing over difficult emotions. It’s about acknowledging those feelings, recognising where they came from, and learning to rise above them. It’s about moving through your story instead of staying in it.

Feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re broken; it simply means you’re ready for change. You are more resilient than you know, and by embracing small, intentional steps, you can build a future that feels truly empowering.

Ready to Reclaim Your Strength and Confidence? If you’re ready to make a change, consider joining our upcoming Resilient and Radiant workshop. In just two hours, we’ll dive into practical tools for building resilience, embracing self-care, and stepping into a life of joy and independence. You deserve to live a life on your terms — let’s start that journey together.

I hope this helps someone today. Big love, xx